Author Archives: End Shame

About End Shame

Psychotherapist and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist

Sex Addiction Recovery and Disclosure

One of the most frightening things for sex addicts who enter recovery and for their partners is hearing that disclosure is widely regarded as a foundational step in recovery and in relationship rebuilding. Disclosure is not dumping details about acting … Continue reading

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Lying and Sex Addiction

I have often said that a person cannot be a successful sex addict without being a world-class liar. This is not a character attack but simply an observation based on many years of working with sex addicts and partners. Why … Continue reading

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The Cost of Sex Addiction

  Actually I am not thinking about the dollars and cents cost of sex addiction. However, it is staggering to see what some people have spent pursing their addiction. Sex addicts often pay a high price for their addiction. Some … Continue reading

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Narcissism and Sex Addiction

  “I want you to tell my husband that he is a narcissist.” This statement is repeated in my office several times each year by partners of sex addicts. At the root of the comment is the fact that these … Continue reading

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Masturbation and Sex Addiction

Masturbation is common in both men and women. A significant percentage of women have engaged in masturbation and some studies show that well over 90% of men have at least one time in their lives engaged in masturbation. A sex … Continue reading

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Sex Addiction: Men Who Act Out With Men

“I just found out that my husband has been sexual with other men. Is my husband gay?” The answer to that question may be “yes,” but the touchstone of whether a person is gay is not that they act out … Continue reading

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Unsuccessful Cures for Sex Addiction

  Sex addiction has been said to be the most difficult addiction to address. Because of this, people have been searching for cures to their problem behaviors but many of these cures are ineffective. Sex addicts often make promises to … Continue reading

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Partners Lend Their Wisdom in Stop Sex Addiction

More than 100 partners or former partners of sex addicts have contributed their wisdom in Stop Sex Addiction: Real Hope, True Freedom for Sex Addicts and Partners. Sex addiction recovery must include those whose lives have been touched by sex … Continue reading

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Sex Addiction is Different From Most Other Addictions

With alcohol and chemical dependency, addicts must make a permanent break from their drug of choice. They decide at the beginning of recovery that they will not use any more. For most sex addicts, it is not as acceptable to … Continue reading

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Relationships Restored After Sex Addiction

Twelve-Step meetings are filled with people whose relationships have ended due to addiction. This is especially true for sexual addiction. However, relationships do not have to end just because of the discovery of sex addiction. I have even seen restoration … Continue reading

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